THE INSTITUTION CALLED MARRIAGE

 (Schwarzenegger and wife Maria shriver)
       Terminator 1 and 2 no doubt was a block buster as Arnold Schwarzenegger (ex-Californian governor)gave us a run for our money with his masculine physique,super hero stunts and brilliant acting.I have never had a knack for action movies. I'd rather still spend the rest of my life watching romantic "happily ever after" movies. I had heard so much about the movie from friends.When I finally got myself to watch it. I wasn't disappointed! as a matter of fact, it's one of the few action movies that I would see and fall in love with the "Actor and Boss" theme. After that movie I never got to hear much about this actor until recently, when I got wind of the news that the terminator star's marriage was in the process of termination. The unfortunate news of the actors messy divorce details was splashed across the news papers and TV stations for everybody to see. The marriage of 25 years was coming to an end. 25 years? I questioned: why should they both go their separate ways after so many years together.
In the typical American setting, where marriages hardly last for 2 years. Theirs was like a milestone. One would imagine that a union that lasted this long would never break.
But sadly, it was coming to an end and his wife wasn't ready to try and resolve their differences.While I maintain that an African woman would have stayed and tried to work it out because of her "Doggedness and Staying power". I'm not in anyway justifying Schwarzenegger's actions of committing adultery with an "in-house maid".
I think its gross irresponsibility but very human and believe that their marriage can still work.

         Growing up as a child,I learnt that the institution  called marriage is a sacred one that should be taken seriously because it is between a man, woman and God as the witness but the emergence of westernization: introduction of technological advancements.i.e gadgets and social network sites that suggests all sorts of ideologies and options to especially the young people who are actively internet savvy. it's indeed very difficult to hold on to one's beliefs and moral values these days.

      During the time of my Grandpa.When he was a young man trying to woo his then chic; Janet (my grandma), All he needed to do was check out her family background, see how responsible and morally upright they were, be sure that he had genuine feelings for her, embark on the "wooing business" then take a bold step in marriage.Unlike our generation where T.B.H.W(tall,black,handsome and wealthy)
is every girls requirement of a  dream man.It was a case of love,religion and good background.

      My grandfather; short,dark with three horizontal tribal marks on both cheek married my petite grandma who is very much a talker, drama queen but very motherly. I bet that grandma didn't look at grandpa's height,tribal marks or even the size of his pocket before she decided to say
"I DO"  to him. No wonder they are still waxing stronger 45 years down this institution.Who says challenges haven't stirred them in the face or one party hasn't fallen into one temptation or the other but forgiveness,tolerance,patience and respect for their union has made them pull through.
  I've found out that no matter how much a man loves a woman, his ideologies will differ from hers but it's in their ability to find a common ground of understanding that matters.
No one can boast of perfection. A good marriage is two imperfect people acknowledging their imperfections but striving for near perfection with each other's help and of cause the help of God.

I have read time and time again that the trend in fashion is a rebirth of 90's and 70's and this generation is happily embracing the trend. I wonder if we can truly embrace the culture of marriage in the 90's respectively.. If you are at the verge of divorce or separation from your spouse.Have a rethink cause your spouse is not perfect, neither are you!
    At this point, if you are or know a couple whose marriage has lasted for over ten years.They should be celebrated! please send in their details,photographs and lets appreciate them on my blog..

I celebrate my Mum and Dad. Prince and Deaconess B.Iyere-Okojie.Whose union has lasted 25 years.Its indeed a great one. I salute you both and pray that mine will be better and not terminated o!